Preparing for Your First Therapy Session

Tips and guidance to help you prepare for and get the most out of your first online therapy session.

First Therapy Session

Starting Your Therapy Journey

Your first therapy session is an important step in your mental health journey. It's normal to feel a mix of emotions—nervousness, hope, uncertainty, or even relief. This initial session sets the foundation for your therapeutic relationship and treatment process.

Whether you're meeting with a therapist online or in person, knowing what to expect and how to prepare can help you feel more comfortable and get the most out of this first encounter. This guide will walk you through what typically happens in a first session and how you can prepare to make it as productive as possible.

Key Takeaway

The first session is primarily about establishing rapport, gathering information, and setting initial goals. Come prepared with your concerns, questions, and an open mind.

What to Expect in Your First Session

First therapy sessions typically follow a similar structure, though the exact format may vary depending on your therapist's approach and the platform you're using.

Session Structure

  • 1
    Introductions & Paperwork

    Your therapist will introduce themselves and review any consent forms or policies you need to know about.

  • 2
    Background & Assessment

    Your therapist will ask about your current concerns, relevant history, and what brought you to therapy.

  • 3
    Goal Setting

    You'll discuss what you hope to achieve through therapy and set initial goals.

  • 4
    Treatment Planning

    Your therapist may outline their approach and how they plan to work with you.

  • 5
    Questions & Next Steps

    You'll have time to ask questions and schedule your next session.

Online Session Specifics

Video Sessions

Most similar to in-person therapy. You'll see and hear your therapist in real-time. Make sure you have a private space and stable internet connection.

Phone Sessions

Audio-only sessions that offer more flexibility. Find a quiet place where you can speak freely without distractions.

Messaging/Chat

Text-based sessions allow for thoughtful responses. Your first exchange may be more extensive to gather background information.

Technical Preparation

  • Test your device, camera, and microphone beforehand
  • Ensure you have a stable internet connection
  • Download any required apps or software in advance
  • Have a backup plan (phone number) if technical issues arise

Session Length

First sessions typically last between 45-60 minutes. Some therapists may schedule a longer initial session (up to 90 minutes) to have more time for assessment. Check your appointment details to confirm the exact duration.

How to Prepare for Your First Session

Before the Session

Reflect on Your Goals

Take some time to think about what you hope to achieve through therapy. Having clear goals will help your therapist understand how to best support you.

"I want to manage my anxiety better so it doesn't interfere with my work."

"I'd like to improve my relationship with my partner and communicate more effectively."

Prepare Your History

Be ready to share relevant background information about your mental health, including:

  • Current symptoms or concerns
  • When these issues began
  • Previous therapy or treatment experiences
  • Current medications
  • Family mental health history (if relevant)

Prepare Questions

Write down questions you have for your therapist, such as:

  • "What approach do you use for [your specific concern]?"
  • "How often should we meet?"
  • "How do you measure progress in therapy?"
  • "What can I do between sessions?"

Setting Up Your Space

Create a Private Environment

For online therapy, it's important to have a private, comfortable space where you won't be interrupted.

  • Find a quiet room where you won't be overheard
  • Let others in your household know you need privacy
  • Consider using headphones for better audio and privacy
  • Turn off notifications on your device

Comfort Items

Have these items nearby to make your session more comfortable:

  • Water or a beverage
  • Tissues
  • Notebook and pen for taking notes
  • Comfort item (like a blanket or stress ball)

Mental Preparation

Take care of your mental state before the session:

  • Schedule buffer time before and after your session
  • Practice a few deep breaths to center yourself
  • Remind yourself that nervousness is normal
  • Approach with an open mind and willingness to share

Pro Tip: Be Honest

The most important thing you can do in your first session is to be honest with your therapist. They're there to help, not to judge. The more open you are about your experiences, thoughts, and feelings, the better they can understand and support you.

Addressing Common Concerns

"What if I get emotional or cry?"

It's completely normal and okay to get emotional during therapy. Therapists are trained to handle emotions and provide support. Crying can be a healthy release and part of the healing process. Your therapist won't be uncomfortable or judge you for showing emotion.

"What if I don't know what to say?"

Your therapist will guide the conversation, especially in the first session. They'll ask questions to help you open up. It's okay to say "I'm not sure" or "I need a moment to think." There's no pressure to have everything figured out—that's what the therapy process is for.

"What if I don't like my therapist?"

Not every therapist will be the right fit, and that's okay. Give yourself permission to try a session or two before deciding. If you don't feel comfortable, it's perfectly acceptable to look for another therapist. Most online platforms make it easy to switch therapists if needed.

"How long will it take to see results?"

Therapy is a process that takes time. Some people notice small changes after just a few sessions, while deeper issues may take months to work through. Be patient with yourself and the process. Your therapist can help set realistic expectations based on your specific situation and goals.

After Your First Session

The work of therapy continues between sessions. Here are some helpful practices after your first appointment:

Reflect

Take some time to process your experience. Consider what felt helpful, what was challenging, and any insights you gained.

Try this: Journal about your thoughts and feelings after the session.

Schedule

If you haven't already, schedule your next session. Consistent attendance is important for building momentum in therapy.

Try this: Set a recurring calendar reminder for your therapy appointments.

Practice Self-Care

Therapy can stir up emotions. Be gentle with yourself and engage in activities that help you feel grounded and calm.

Try this: Plan a relaxing activity for after your therapy sessions.

Evaluating Your Experience

After your first session, ask yourself these questions to evaluate your experience:

  • Did I feel comfortable talking to this therapist?
  • Did I feel listened to and understood?
  • Does their approach seem like a good fit for my needs?
  • Do I feel hopeful about working with this person?

Final Thoughts

Starting therapy is a courageous step toward better mental health and well-being. Your first session is just the beginning of what can be a transformative journey. Remember that therapy is a collaborative process—you and your therapist are partners in your growth and healing.

It's normal for the therapeutic relationship to deepen over time. As you continue with sessions, you'll likely feel more comfortable opening up and exploring deeper issues. Trust the process and give yourself permission to take things at your own pace.

Remember

There's no "perfect" way to do therapy. Every person's journey is unique. Be patient with yourself, communicate openly with your therapist, and celebrate the courage it takes to begin this important work.

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